How To Get Bikini Ready for Summer 2017

Hey beautiful/handsome! Summer is near! It’s time to get out there and swim or tan and enjoy the weather!

However, many of us feel that we aren’t bikini ready. So I wanted to share my tips for you to get bikini ready

The first step to get bikini ready is to find a body!

The second step to get bikini ready is to find a bikini!

The third and final step to get bikini ready is to put on your bikini!

Guess what?! Now you are bikini ready 😀

I have attached my YouTube video so you can learn more about how to get bikini ready for summer 🙂

Love you all! xx ❤ ❤

It’s Time to End the Hate

Hey beautiful/handsome, hope you are well. It’s been a while since my last post. I have been unreasonably busy.

This time I want to talk about body shaming and why it needs to end.

*First off if body positivity, self-love, eating disorders, weight loss, weight gain, fat, and body shaming topics offend or trigger you, this post isn’t for you.*

Here we go..

Body shaming is something I go through everyday. It’s to be expected when you are my size and put yourself out there on the internet. However, most people assume.  They assume I am overweight and fat because I binge eat, overeat, and don’t exercise/workout. They assume I don’t care about myself or my body. The second I mention that I have PCOS and it’s easier to gain weight and harder to lose weight I get ridiculed that I use PCOS as an excuse (which I do not). I might have used that as an excuse in high school, but I don’t anymore. It’s a huge part of my weight gain and harder time to lose weight but’s it’s not the only reason I’m overweight. That’s not really the point though. The point is that people shame me for existing, for being fat, for loving myself and my body. I’m sorry but weren’t we all taught that it is crucial to love ourselves and our bodies? Weren’t we all taught the value of love and respect for others?

You don’t know everyone’e story. Stop telling people how to live their lives just because they live their life differently than yours.

Stop telling people to put down the fork, put down the food. Eat a salad, go workout. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE GOING THROUGH.

You don’t know if they workout and eat healthy already.

Don’t tell someone who is skinny to eat a cheeseburger because you think they need meat on their bones. Stop shaming others for living their life.

You know what body shaming does? It doesn’t make someone be like oh okay cool thanks bro lemme just stop eating and go workout!

No, what body shaming can do but not always is promote eating disorders, make people use laxatives, engage in self-induced vomiting, and even extreme calorie counting and extreme workout just to name a few.

I’m not saying that it is healthy to be severely underweight or severely overweight. I will never say that either lifestyles are healthy. But I will say that you don’t know everyone’s story. So before you judge and tell someone how to live their life, focus on your own and maybe just maybe hold your tongue.

I love you all. You are all so beautiful/handsome no matter your size. Your size does not determine your worth. ❤ ❤

Alexandria

Fat People Have Standards

Hey beautiful/handsome! Hope you are well!

This time around I want to talk about standards. We all have them in terms of what we like and don’t like and what we want and don’t want in relationships. It’s normal.

When I was younger I didn’t really have standards because I had no self-esteem or self- love. I accepted whatever because I thought that’s what I deserved. After some self-improvement I found that I need to change my view of myself and not take the ignorance that was thrown at me.

Now when I turn someone down (not all the time, but over half the time) I get called names, get told that they were doing me a favor, and so forth.

Two seconds ago I was “beautiful” in your eyes and now because I don’t feel the same way I’m this bad ugly person?

It’s just incredible how people change when rejection arises and you a fat person turn someone down. Again, not all fat people who turn someone down are called names. I am just speaking on my personal account of what I have experienced

The video that I have included speaks more clearly about what my intent and meaning is and I hope you enjoy it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZMCZBmrf18

 

❤ ❤ xx Alexandria xx ❤ ❤

Fat Does Not = Ugly

Hey beautiful/handsome! Hope you are well!
So I made a YouTube video a little bit ago which I will include at the end of my post for you to check out about Fat does not = ugly. Let me tell you, it sparked a lot of hate and dislikes. Guess we have a lot of fat phobic/fat haters out there ey?
Well let me tell you this, just because someone is fat does not mean they are ugly. Being fat is not this free pass you get at making fun of someone. Being fat does not mean that you are ugly just like being skinny does not automatically make you attractive. (However, everyone is beautiful/handsome- YES, EVERYONE!)
I get a lot of frequent comments that I will leave below with my responses
“But your belly hangs low” yes, yes it does. What’s your point? (You can clearly see from my Instagram @smithythefishy how my body looks)
“But you have two bellies” Yeah, I’m so awesome that I have a double belly. Next?
“But you are fat you can’t be healthy” Oh but I am, not all fat people are unhealthy
“But you are ugly and fat” I may be very fat! You are correct there, ugly? Maybe to you. Maybe I am not your preferance which is fine, but no. I’m not ugly.

 

Just because you don’t find someone physically attractive does not mean they are ugly. They might not be your preference or cup or tea and that’s fine. We aren’t going to be attracted to everyone but just because you don’t like someone does not mean you should shame and hate on them.

Here is my video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CMA5PTnuqg

GlamorPlus+ Collab!

Hey everyone! I worked with my fellow GlamorPLus+ ladies and we filmed a lookbook featuring our favorite color! I chose purple (no surprise there)

I wanted to share this here because I wanted to attach all of our videos!

My video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxfUNS604Yo

Ashton’s video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hseLQwYf9v4&feature=youtu.be

April’s video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JwR-2D1siRY&feature=youtu.be

Mai’s video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhEWhG4BPm8&feature=youtu.be

Please make sure to watch mine and theirs as well! Tell them I sent you! We all had a great time filming and I hope you enjoyed!

Love you all! xx ❤ ❤

Obsession with the Scale

Hey beautiful/handsome, this time I will be talking about the obsession that I used to have with my scale.

Growing up I  was obsessed with weighing myself. I would weigh myself constantly even multiple times per day. Note that this is not healthy at all considering weight fluctuates throughout the day and week. If you are going to weigh yourself have it be nor more than once a week  around the time time/day.

I was obsessed with the number on the scale because if it went down, then I was doing good and losing weight but if it went up, I would torment myself for gaining weight and getting fatter. As I mentioned weight changes throughout the day for many different reasons. Making it unhealthy to weigh yourself multiple times in a day and even in a week.

Weighing yourself can be a great thing if you want to know what your weight is. On the other hand it could be detrimental if you fall into unhealthy patterns like I did. Just remember weight is just a number. If you don’t like the number you have the ability to change it but it should be in a healthy way.

The YouTube video that I included speaks a little more in depth of my prior relationship with my scale.

No matter what the number on the scale is (big or small) you are beautiful/handsome and you are worth so much more than that number. ❤

I love you all! ❤ Remember to love yourself, love your body, and just remember no matter what anyone says, you are beautiful/handsome just the way you are

Alexandria

 

I REFUSE To Apologize For Being FAT

Hey beautiful/handsome! Hope you are doing well!

This time around I wanted to talk about not apologizing for being fat. I used to apologize and that is wrong. No one should apologize for who they are and how they live their lives. If someone can’t accept you for who you are maybe you should check and look at who you hang out with.

We are all different and look different and there is nothing wrong with that at all. Love yourself and your body and accept yourself. If you want to make changes to your body, do it for you and not for anyone else.

If you hang out with someone who makes you feel bad for who you are, why keep that toxic negativity in your life? Not saying you have to disown your friends, but if you can’t be or feel accepted, there is something wrong there.

No matter what anyone says remember to love yourself, love your body, and remember no matter what anyone says you are beautiful or handsome just the way you are!

 

Love you all! Alexandria xx ❤